Friday, January 6, 2012

Ripping Off the Rear-View Mirror

It’s been a month since my last post. Pathetic I know. But in reality, it was hectic trying to get through the holidays, travel, visit family and friends – and of course trying to forget about our big “disappointment” last month.

The forgetting worked for a little while, but the sadness and anger of being so close to finally becoming parents did rear its ugly head a couple of times (especially after a few Patron shots at this amazing oyster bar in Newport, RI).

But, as with everything in life, we are moving ahead (with no regrets) – which reminds me of something my husband said to me during our little escape to The Keys.

He was referring to this old movie called, “The Gumball Rally” (from 1976), which is about a coast-to-coast car race (think of the Cannonball Run movies).

Well, there’s a scene where this Italian guy is in the driver seat (his name is Franco) and he looks at the guy and the passenger seat and says:

Franco: And now my friend, the first-a rule of Italian driving.

[Franco rips off his rear-view mirror and throws it out of the car]

Franco: What's-a behind me is not important.

So, the point of Ken’s story was, we are going to do exactly what Franco did: We are going to rip off the rear-view mirror and not look back. Because what has happened with this whole adoption process so far is not important – what’s important is what lies ahead – on the open road before us.

With that said, does anyone know of a good adoption lawyer in the NYC-area?


  1. I think Baby Steps has one she thinks is phenomenal.

    Good luck.

    Love the post.

  2. Oh, sweetheart, Kenny is so right. What a wise man you married. You can't change the past and time spent focused on it is time that could be spent enjoying the present. Good for you guys! All of life's experiences are valuable and useful. Who knows what lies in store for you even today? You could just bless the socks off someone and be blessed in return. We love you guys! Love, Auntie Pam :-)

  3. While it is hard to not revisit the past, I think it is healthy to focus on the future! Easier said than done, though. Best of luck to you in this brand new year.